I was rudely awakened at 1:00 am Sunday morning by the ringing of the telephone. It was Ben. He was REALLY upset! It seems that he found out “accidentally” that Jess had been fired from her job. (she was working for the same company as hubby, only a different store) Ben was LIVID, as well as miserable… asking me, “What do I do? I know I have to dump her, but what do I do??” I tried to calm him down, and told him to call her Mom in BC and get her Mom to talk to her, and tell her to come home. He phoned later, to tell me broke up with her, and she was having a panic attack. He was going nuts, trying to figure out how to calm her down. He quickly hung up, and I didn’t hear from him until he showed up here at the house yesterday afternoon, in tears, because he’d just dropped her off at the airport. He talked to me for a long time, telling me how much it “sucked”, and that she was such a nice girl, and he loved her so much, and why couldn’t she just get her shit together. She was giving him some time to think about whether he wanted to end it, or try long distance again.
Ben was really concerned that “the people he cares most about” (being hubby, Sarah, Jay and myself) would never respect her. I told him that I had nothing whatsoever against her. She’s a total sweetheart. I told him, that I’m now convinced she has emotional or mental problems, such as depression or something. Ben then told me that she’s been diagnosed with depression before, but I don’t think she’s on meds or anything. I told him that I thought he should strongly encourage her to go to a doctor and have a good check up, and maybe start going to a counsellor. At least now her Mom can take care of her. So I advised Ben to just take it day by day, that there was no reason he had to make an immediate decision, so he phoned her and told her that, and he seemed a lot better last night. He stayed out here, and slept in our basement. He didn’t want to go home to an empty condo, as Sarah and Jay have been on holidays in BC for the past week. She gets home later today, so I’m assuming Ben and his kitty will go home today.
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