This was kind of a crummy weekend! It started off by there being yet another big blowout at a forum I’ve been visiting for about 4 years. What’s been happening lately, is that people seem to be having a lot of tantrums! If people don’t respond to their posts, they whine, “I’m being ignored, I’m not coming back!” If people make jokes, they’re taken the wrong way, “I’m leaving… this isn’t a joking matter. This is a serious issue! I’m leaving.” If someone expresses an opposing opinion, “Nobody likes me, you’re always disagreeing with me, you’re picking on me! I’m leaving!” Then everyone moans and groans, and sucks up, tells the person how marvellous they are, how life won’t be the same without them, begging them to stay, which of course they do!! Sheesh!
Anyway, this weekend, someone posted some facts about a diet they were following (of their own invention). The information didn’t seem right, and in fact seemed downright dangerous if unknowing people were to try and listen to this woman’s advice! This same woman who has been complaining of no energy, hair loss, etc! DUH A dear and very knowledgable friend of mine, very politely, and in a very non-argumentative way, quietly pointed out what she thought the correct information to be. WELL!!!!!! Did the shit hit the fan!!! The original poster totally attacked my friend publically in the forum, (of which my friend is the co-moderator), said she’s always picking on her, that she’s nasty, etc, and that as a result she was leaving! My post was: “Hmmmmmmmm another hissy fit” (as she was the 3rd ‘grown woman’ to stomp her footies and leave in a week! So the two of them bantered back and forth for a couple of posts, my friend remaining calm, and dignified. The poster being rude, childish and pathetic!!! Then her friends started piping in and getting way over the top…. I wrote a post defending my friend, and saying that if the poster had an issue with my friend, she should take it up privately with her as opposed to trying to rile up the whole forum! Later that day, the poster sent me a very snarky ICQ message, saying “Her and half the forum was ready to leave because of my friend, see ya.” I knowing full well that was a load of crap, simply replied, “OK… see you!”. Later that night “her husband” (I’m sure it was her) posted on the forum, and said that she left because I had told her too! Shit! How do you combat such LIES…. I just wrote to the forum that that was not the truth, however out of respect for the peace of the community, I was not going to go into details as to what was really said, as I didn’t want any more people to be hurt.
The owner of the board is a good friend of mine, and he’s so upset! He works so hard to make it a great place for support and encouragement and all it takes is a couple of people like that poster to rile up everyone! He’s getting all these stupid emails, advising him as to how he should have handled it, and advice up the ying-yang! It’s just frustrating because you can’t face your attacker…. I know from past experience that it happens on every forum. I’ve witnessed it time and time again.
Then to make matters even worse, one of Sarah’s classmates died on the weekend. (This is the 2nd one in 6 months) This 18 year old boy was MVP on the football team, and supposed to graduate this year. He took his own life. I’m quite at a loss as to how to explain this to Sarah, as I don’t understand it myself. The same thing happened last year. An 18 year old football player took his life. Fortunately the school has the wisdom to bring in the Suicide Prevention team, and they talk to the kids.
Well… let’s hope for brighter things the rest of the week!